Everyone loves to make friends but the fact is that developing & maintaining a good friendship takes effort.Some of people have so many friends that if you ask them” Can you say some of your friends name whom you considered as a good friends?”They simply give a casual answer”Are yaar mere kai sare good friends hain…par mujhe sabka naam yad nahin…!!!!People with a big social group tend to be more at peace,which lead to better health. Developing & maintaining healthy friendships involves give & take.Letting friends know you care about them & appreciate them can help strengthen your bond.
Recently I read an article in which it was written “People with more number of friends have fewer cardiovascular problems & immune problems,stress hormones.”However people with fewer friends , die sooner after having a heart attack than people with a strong social network.
But many of us find it difficult to develop new friendships or keep up existing friendships.Basically most of the adults face such type of problem.Let’s take an example of mine only,I’m a housewife & I too get time to initiate a huge friend circle.But still I love to make friends wherever I go whether it is a social gathering or my kid co-curricular activities classes or my own study & dance classes.The list goes on & on.
If u still din’t have time for all this then you can simply just grab your kids or pet & head outside.Chat with neighbours who are also out & about or head to a popular park & strike up conversations there.At least when we feel stressed or overwhelmed,it helps to speak someone you trust.However nowdays technology plays an important role in our daily lives.It has enabled us to strengthen relationships by keeping in contact with old friends or make some new friends.But in my opinion,being dependent upon technology has only conditioned us to become less social,interactive & outgoing.
Can I ask “How many of you have rather talked to someone through text message,email or social media to avoid face to face communication?”I’m damm sure most of us will raise hands without any hesitation.
Anyhow social media specially affects friendship.Joining a chat group or online communication may relieve loneliness,but intimacy or sharing personal views is not a good idea.I have seen many people loves to make friends through social media & they too share their personal views without knowing them properly for which they suffer a lot at the end.
To nurture friendship first try to accept yourself then try to accept others:
*Work on building your self-esteem by taking care of yourself,eat a healthy diet & include physical activity in your daily routine.Secondly accept others views & encourage freely to express their emotions.Don’t be little or make fun of what other person thinks or feels.
*Keep confidential any personal information that your friends share with you.Try not to ask questions that make them feel uncomfortable.
*The last not the least don’t ever judge.Give your friend’s space to change ,grow & make mistakes.Encourage them to freely express their emotions.
It’s never too late to build new friendship or reconnect with old friends.Investing time in making friends & strengthening your friendship leads to better & healthy lifestyle.So lets start making friends now ,what you all are waiting for???
My secrets for leading a healthy lifestyle!!!! 